Why do people hate Muslims so much? Studies have long argued that the religion has no moderate voices and encourages violence and terrorism. Others stipulate that many Muslim countries are oil dictatorships and that Saudi Arabia, through channeling oil dollars to poorer Muslim countries to impose a more radical view of Islam. But ask anyone in the streets of Europe, Asia or the Americas and the first thing that will come to their mind is “they don’t respect women’s rights”.

Political scientists have argued that no two countries with a liberal democratic governing system have ever fought a war against each other. Others suggest that no two countries with a McDonald's restaurant have ever waged a war against each other. Theorists suggest that people would rather queue for burgers than go outside and grab guns. I would add that men would rather think about the next person they will have a date with than fight a war.

Men like dating. Yet every moral order that has existed has put restrictions on dating and have strictly codified relationships between men and women.  Women have traditionally been the ones who were blamed for initiating the sin.

Every doctrine put restrictions against dating. In every culture that existed, it is either the parents who choose a wife for their son, or the man who sees a woman he likes and than asks his parents to ask her parents to marry her. If a woman sees a man and tells her parents she’s in love, honor crimes are often the norm. Honor crimes committed against men are almost something unheard of.

Then what is a country that does not respect woman’s rights? Few countries have laws that imply that women are inferior to men. However, when walking around the streets of a country, one can tell whether woman have rights or not.

Most countries that are at war don’t have facilities where men and woman can meet privately for a reasonable price. They don’t have coffee shops with coffee for a reasonable price that allow men and women to sit together, nor do they have restaurants, theme parks or movie theaters that offer a range of prices which are affordable for average income earners, or any other leisure areas, for that purpose. And most importantly, they don’t have places where couples can privately enjoy having sex.

The more men have the possibility to have sex, the less they tend to go to war. In most countries at war, a woman can not go to man’s house unless they are married. Furthermore, hotels have prohibitive prices and in some countries’ cases don’t even allow unmarried couples to share a room.

Sex is not the whole story. Men also like to kiss and cuddle. Yet in most countries that are at war, kissing and cuddling in public is deemed indecorous and not allowed, and there are no places to do that privately.

Some would say this theory is not valid because the United States does not belong to this category and yet is a very belligerent country. But ask the people who enrolled for the army. They often live in neighborhoods where unlike the dating portrayed on sitcoms, they have no place to go date.

Minorities in countries where sex is liberalized tend to have more conservative views on sexual behavior. They don’t allow their children to marry people with liberal views on sex. Meanwhile, while South-North immigration is motivated by money, liberal sex is also a motivating factor for immigrants. “In Europe, I can date a woman freely. I have the money to do so. There are lots of places where you can bring a woman, and people don’t point a finger at you when you hold hands or take a woman to your place” is what immigrants will often say.

Perhaps the reason formerly belligerent countries like Korea and Vietnam or even China are rather peaceful countries now is because there have been dramatic changes relating to relations between men and women. Love motels are largely available, and dating is not a taboo anymore. However the likeliness of China having a “shortage” of women because people killed girls to try again and have a boy during the single child policy might lead them to wage wars.

As for other countries, as long as they force women to hide themselves as in rich oil countries and India, or maintain prohibitively high prices on services and hotels such as in Latin America and sub-Saharan Africa, the likelihood of wars in those countries will remain high. After all, the words peace and love go together.