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How kids (and adults) get hooked on drugs How kids (and adults) get hooked on drugs
by Joseph Gatt
2020-12-18 10:23:47
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Another guide to prevent our kids and adults from getting hooked on drugs.

Scenario 1: Jane Doe's parents are divorced. Jane's mother lives in Florida and her father lives in Ohio. Jane is 16 and chose to live with her father. Jane's father is a truck driver and only comes home around once a week. Jane's father also has a girlfriend and her father tends to spend his free time at his girlfriend's house.

For her 16th birthday, Jane threw a party at her house. Her friends brought liquor with them. Once a few of the boys and girls got intoxicated, someone pulled out several grams of cocaine and invited the boys and girls to snort.

dru001_400Jane then held parties at her house every day and became very popular at school for her wild parties. Alcohol and drug consumption was rampant.

Scenario 2: John Roe is over 21 and a college student. He likes to drink with his buddies at the pub. John and his buddies tend to get a little too excited when they drink. They lose touch with reality and challenge themselves to several “truth or dare” - like games.

One day, John and his buddies get dared to snort cocaine. Then to inject heroin. Then to freebase on drugs. Soon enough John and his buddies are hooked.

Scenario 3: Peter Doe goes clubbing every Friday and Saturday night. At first, Peter was keen on practicing his dance skills, be it shuffle dance or disco dance or hip-hop or his b-boy skills.

As time goes by, Peter starts drinking a bit too much at the club, and when intoxicated, get offered cocaine, heroin, LSD and all kinds of other drugs. Peter eventually gets hooked, so do many who attend the club.

Scenario 4: Jennifer Doe secretly smokes cigarettes with her girlfriends at a hide-out near the school. The smoker's club starts off with three girls, and eventually grows to become a dozen girls, then more.

One girl offers marijuana. Then cocaine. Then Ecstasy. Then crack cocaine. Soon enough, the girls are freebasing on drugs.

Scenario 5: Paul Roe works at a factory. His factory buddies are wild. They work their shifts and then go out and binge drink at the local pub.

The binge drinking gets out of hand and soon enough the gang starts challenging each other to using drugs. Soon enough they are all hooked.

Scenario 6: Andy Doe works at a company as a salesman. The sales department likes to have wild parties every night with prostitutes and alcohol. Soon enough drugs are introduced to the table.

Scenario 7: Sarah Roe is a teacher at a school. Teachers have poker nights every night and Sarah joins. The poker game is often accompanied by a few drinks. Soon enough drugs enter the table.

Scenario 8: Mark Doe is a closet gay man. He does his job properly during the day, and heads to a gay pub at night. He likes to hook up with guys and ditch them. Soon enough drugs are on the tables.

What lessons can we learn from this?

John Doe and Jane Roe could be you and me. You go to school. Or to college. Or get a job. Or hang out with a group of friends. You drink. You get a little too comfortable with your friends. No topic is off limits. You and your friends challenge each other to do stupid things. First as a joke. Then seriously. Next thing you know you are hooked on drugs.

So, as a parent, brother, or friend, here are the warning signs you want to watch out for.

-If he/she says he is going to a “party” is it a one-time event, or is it a regular fixture?

-Is that “party” business related? Or is it a birthday/religious holiday? Or does it celebrate anything specific?

-Who are his/her buddies? Do they study/work together? Or do they enjoy partying together?

-Does he/she live for his/her study and work? Or does he/she live for the parties?

-Do you notice any strange makeup or hairstyle or fashion choices?

-Does he/she always find an excuse to leave the house? Do they say something like “I like studying with Jane/Jack?” and yet they get irritable when you suggest that Jane or Jack come home and study instead?

-Does he/she have clear life or career plans? Or is he/she living for the moment?

-Do they have strange/unrealistic excuses to borrow money or to ask for money (something like: my friend Jane and I are starting a fund to purchase a car that we are going to share and we're also starting a foundation to help people in Africa and the minimum starting fund is 10,000 Dollars yada yada yada).

-Does he/she keep mentioning a friend or two and talking about that friend, yet you have no idea who that friend is and they never bring that friend home?  

-And finally, big one: are they comfortable at home? Or are they eager to get out of the house? Is any excuse a good excuse to get out of the house? Do they “love staying” at a “friend's” house?

How do you prevent and use prevention?

-Make your home cozy and comfortable. Don't make your children/siblings/partner want to leave the house.

-Teach your kids that parties celebrate occasional events. Parties are for birthdays and Communions and Bar Mitvas, and should not be a three-time-a-week event.

-Take the kids out! Take 'em fishing, take 'em to the park, have a picnic, take 'em hiking, play sports with them, play games with them, take 'em out to the game, take 'em out for dinner etc. Don't lock the kids at home all day and all weekend!

-Rule number 1: if the kid wants to do his “homework” at his friend's house, either call the “friend's” parents, or have the friend come over to your house. I know that sounds kind of like a Jewish mother thing to do, but that's what you should do.

-Rule number 2: are the friend's parents supervising the kids? Or are the parents “absent-minded”? If the parents know who the kids are and can give a few details of what the kids are doing, great! If the parents have no idea who the kids are and don't seem to pay attention to what the kids are doing, no.

-Make sure your kids/siblings/partner have a “clean” group of friends they can hang out with after work. A lot of the people you meet at work can be strange in some places.

-If they change cities, you want to make sure they take it very slow when it comes to meeting friends. It's OK to wait for six months or a year before having a clean group of friends. Most wild parties take place when people want to make friends the minute they land in the city.

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